Lori Harder is a leading expert in the field of fitness, transformational work, mindfulness, and self-love. She has grown two multi-million dollar businesses as a successful entrepreneur and network marketing professional.
She is also an author, cover model, and three-time fitness world champion, who offers a carefully curated set of practical tools to promote sustainable health, spiritual well-being, and financial freedom.
Through her books, unique coaching methods, and programs, she has helped countless people connect with their soul, transform their bodies, empower their minds, gain financial independence, and fall in love with themselves and their lives.
Throughout her career, Lori has regularly appeared on the covers of and published articles for Oxygen Magazine, STRONG Fitness Magazine, Health & Fitness Magazine and Prosper Magazine. She has also been featured on NBC, Fox, and TLC networks.
Lori talks to Bella LA about what inspires her, the upcoming Wanderlust event, and the tools that changed her life for the better.
Bella Los Angeles: What inspired you to write “A Tribe Called Bliss” now?
Lori Harder: As a young girl I was raised in restrictive religion where I was not allowed to associate with kids outside of my religion. This led me to spend a lot of time alone since there were not many kids or kids I connected to. I took on the belief that I was better off alone in a way to protect myself, and this carried into my adult years as a I began to accomplish goals later on in life, and even though I was creating an amazing life, I was truly lonely, disconnected and felt I had taken myself as far as I could go on my own. This is what forced me to creating tribes of supportive women in my life and it completely changed the game for me. After accelerating my goals and feeling happier and more connected than I ever have through these relationships I knew I had to share how I went from nothing, to everything through this method.
BLA: If readers could take-away three key learnings from the book to apply into a new routine in their daily lives, what would they be?
LH: The book is truly about replacing old disempowering habits and beliefs about yourself and your relationships with women, with new empowering ones that can finally create the outcomes you desire. I would say three things to introduce immediately are:
- Try replacing comparison with compliments. When we compare we tell ourselves that we are up against women and that will not get us to where we want to go or have the relationships we want. Take all the time you need, but stop until you can find something beautiful abut that person. This will free you to take more risks.
- Release your expectations. Trade your expectations accepting people where they’re at. When we hold an expectation for ourselves and others, we will always be let down. Chances are the last time you were let down was because you decided to have an expectation. When we let go, we allow people to show up in the way they are meant to in our lives and it also tells us that our imperfect-ness is ok. Letting people be who they are also makes us “collect” more people to fill different needs because, no, one person can be everything to anyone.
- F Yourself and Everyone else… Obviously I mean FORGIVE, because forgiveness is not about the other person, but it’s about you freeing yourself. Even if it’s you, you have to forgive, this may be the single most important thing you can do every minute of everyday. When we hold a grudge or don’t forgive, we give that person a free horsey-ride on our back all day long… I don’t know about you, but I can’t get anything done carrying other people around all day. That will drain your energy faster than a Thanksgiving feast.
BLA: How can Angelenos sign-up for the launch-event at Wanderlust and what can people expect from the first book launch event?
LH: They can sign up at atribecalledbliss.com! You can expect an amazing lecture/fireside chat about the current status of how we feel about ourselves, our relationships with each other and how we can create lasting connections that accelerate our personal growth, our goals and help us find our unique Bliss journey.
BLA: Who are the women in your tribe who have inspired you the most and why?
LH: I would say the women that most inspire me are Danette May, Lindsay Sukornyk and Gabby Bernstein. These are the women that I know are truly happy, have amazing relationships, are doing what they love and sharing their gifts in the world in a big way. They work insanely hard but also know the value of play and quality friend time.
BLA: Tell us about the Bliss Project event you do annually?
LH: The Bliss Project is a weekend event where women from all over the world come to connect to their like-minded tribe, release their fears and try-on their authentic selves. It’s a weekend filled with personal growth exercises, transformational speakers, dance, performers, music, meditation, yoga and lots of surprises. I truly took every single thing that has ever shifted my soul and helped me create transformation in my life and put it all in one weekend.
BLA: What were some of your defining moments that led you to fully understand your purpose of helping so many others?
LH: When I was young I struggled with my weight and was bullied for that and for my religion and that struggle became an imprint of who I thought I was. I knew I did not want this as my adult fate so at a young age I started researching health and fitness so I would no longer feel that pain and later in life I knew I wanted to help anyone else from ever feeling the pain of feeling trapped in an unhealthy cycle or being hurt by others. I also had a near drowning incident with my sister and babysitter. My baby-sitter ended up drowning and during the incident I had a moment of clarity that felt like a “knowing” in my life. I was also kidnapped in Mexico overnight and had this same moment of “knowing” happen again. It took years of binge drinking and eating and harming myself before I decided to put an empowering story behind why those things happened. I decided I lived through them because I had a big purpose. It wasn’t until that decision much later in my life that I finally started making changes.
BLA: What are some of your favorite spots in Los Angeles that bring you the most bliss?
LH: I love the ocean – walking along it with my dog, Waffles and husband Chris or being in it. It is my reminder of how small we are, yet so connected. For me it’s peaceful, grounding and rejuvenating. I love to go to the beach or surf in Santa Monica, Venice or Malibu. I also love to hike in Malibu and explore any all natural food store or restaurant. For me I’ve never felt like I had roots, so now that I do, I am in Bliss in my neighborhood, talking to all the locals and knowing people at my coffee shops, soul cycle, gym, true foods, Kreation café and Hillstone.
BLA: How important is authenticity in this day and age of social media especially for women to speak their truth?
LH: If we don’t speak and live our truth we are not only putting ourselves in a silent prison, but we are all keeping each other in one. When we reject parts of ourselves or don’t show up fully ourselves, the right people can’t “see us” and we miss the opportunities that were for us because they can’t identify our talents and truths. This keeps us trapped in inauthentic circles where we all believe we have to someone else to be loved and accepted. When you are fully you, the wrong people begin to leave quickly, making room for the ones who love you for you, and together you free each other to know it’s safe to be whatever versions of you are evolving into. This is how you support each other in becoming your highest potential.
BLA: BELLA Magazine’s tagline is “beauty defined by you” — what is your definition of beauty?
LH: My definition of beauty is feeling like the most authentic version of you, fully expressed and feeling connected in your relationships. The place where you feel most aligned with that deep knowing you are fulfilling your calling on the planet and where you can honestly say you love and accept all that you are. Beauty is an ever-evolving relationship with yourself and your higher power that is always a work in progress and has the eternal potential to get better than you can imagine with each day.